Years ago I submitted a Society of Mayflower Descendants Preliminary Application believing that my mother’s ancestor Thomas Mitchell (c. 1627-1709) of Malden, Massachusetts was a descendant of Mayflower passenger Francis Cooke. The Society informed me that Thomas has not been proven to be a Cooke descendant, so my first application was a non-starter. I told my husband of my disappointment, and he reassured me by saying “I’m sure you’ll weasel your way in somehow.”
In 2010 I filled out another Preliminary Application, showing my line to Mayflower passenger John Howland via proven descendant David Hamlin (c. 1737-1825) of Salisbury, Connecticut and Great Barrington, Massachusetts. This was a go, but I still had to prove each generation between me and David with solid documentation, including as much primary evidence as possible.
One issue that held me up was the inability to find my own maternal grandparents’ marriage. I didn’t want to have the saddest application ever, proving their marriage by their eventual divorce, or in some other roundabout way.
I was pretty sure my grandmother Elisabeth Oblenis Bogert was married 30 Mar 1931. In 1963 when George Olin Zabriskie was compiling The Zabriskie family; a three hundred and one year history of the descendants of Albrecht Zaborowskij (ca. 1638-1711) of Bergen County, New Jersey he asked for her data. (She is descended at least nine times from Albrecht through three of his five sons.) The book says that she was married 30 Mar 1930, but she was listed as single in both places in which she appears in the 1 Apr 1930 U.S. census. She was somehow enumerated both with her brother Regis Zabriskie Bogert in Albuquerque, New Mexico, and with her parents back in Paramus, New Jersey.
Unfortunately no one in my family had any idea where she got married, so I did not know where to look for an official record. Since people are most often married in the bride’s hometown, I thought she might have gone home to be married in the Paramus Dutch Reformed Church, but New Jersey had no record. Albuquerque seemed like another possibility, but there was no New Mexico record. My grandfather was living in Los Angeles at the time, but California also had no record.
Finally in 2016 Ancestry.com added Arizona County Marriages from 1865 to 1972 to their databases, and a hint appeared on my grandmother’s profile. My grandparents were married 30 Mar 1931, as I had guessed, in Kingman, Mohave County, Arizona, possibly because it was approximately midway between Albuquerque and Los Angeles.
With this and the many other certificates and records I have collected over the years, I believe my application is finally in order. I am meeting with a woman from the Society next week just to make sure I have all my ducks in a row. If so, I will be mailing my papers that day.